This is the first Sunday letter, and if you joined this week, welcome. Every Sunday you'll get one story worth reading, one honest pick and one small thing to try.
This week is about the place. A good first-date spot passes three tests: you can hear each other without leaning in, you feel safe getting there and home, and you can leave after an hour without it being a scene. It doesn't need to be impressive, expensive or new.
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1. One story worth reading
Worth reading this week
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2. One honest pick
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Meetup
Local groups for almost any interest, from hiking to book clubs, and many are for a certain age group or for singles. Joining groups is free; some events charge a fee. Members only confirm an email address, so meet in public the first few times.
3. One thing to try this week
Suggest a walk instead of dinner
Next time you set up a first date, suggest a late-morning coffee to go and a 30 to 40 minute walk that ends near where you both parked. Walking side by side takes the pressure off eye contact, and silences feel natural.